Thursday, May 2nd, 2013
Really?! I don’t know about you, but deep down inside, I have always had a “niggle” about this phrase…something that in my body I could feel I was not okay with, but that I could not put into words…
And then, just as I had been writing about love affairs and such this week, in my inbox was my daily Abraham quote that read: (more…)
Tuesday, April 30th, 2013
What if the only parts of love “affairs” were the good parts that I talked about in my last blog?
What if those whose souls truly, deeply wanted to be monogamous with each other chose that, and the rest chose polyamory?
What if those “affairs” weren’t really affairs anymore, and were simply loving another person in addition to the partner(s) we already loved?
What if people learned to trust themselves and each other?
What do you think the world would be like if all those things came to pass? (more…)
Friday, April 26th, 2013
I know there is a lot of judgment out there about people who have affairs. I’ve even judged myself and others for having them.
And, I’d like us to rethink the whole thing. I’m not saying that people should have more affairs, or even that they are not “wrong” in the sense that the people involved are out of integrity.
I’m saying let’s take a step back and look more closely at just what a love affair is. Why are people so drawn to them? What happens to the two people involved in an affair? (more…)
Friday, April 19th, 2013
This phrase, and the knowledge that I was going to write this blog, came to me a couple of nights ago. It was just after a session with a client. I was tuned in during the session in a way that I have rarely been before in this lifetime. Sometimes the Universe delivers the goods just to give me a sign when I need it most. (more…)
Tuesday, April 16th, 2013
The second part of “being generous with your love” is to share that love with others. (The first part being giving love to yourself, which I wrote about in my previous blog.)
The more you love yourself, the easier it is to love others and the more you will notice things to love about them.
You will not be jealous of others’ good points when you know you have many of your own. You will realize that each person simply has different lovable things that make up who they are. There is no scarcity of loveable traits to go around. (more…)
Thursday, April 4th, 2013
Let me first say this: in terms of one’s sexual choices- monogamy, celibacy, polyamory- it can all be a spiritual path. None is”better” than the others. The path I am on simply happens to be polyamory.
Here are some of the ways in which I see that polyamory is a spiritual path: (more…)
Tuesday, April 2nd, 2013
Again, if you haven’t read parts I, II, and III of my blog on transparency in relationships, I suggest you go back and do that now…
Picking up where I left off, I went through the next forty-eight hours with much crying, journal writing, and “villain-izing” my primary (aka primary poly partner; boyfriend). Finally, at the end of a hot yoga class during which I had dripped first tears and then sweat onto my mat, I started having this thought: It is so beautiful that my partner and I have signed up to teach each other about transparency and boundary-setting in this lifetime Then, I knew I was out of drama and ready to talk to him face to face about what was up for me. I had shifted from blame to responsibility for co-creating this perfect situation with my partner. (more…)
Thursday, March 28th, 2013
If you’ve been following along with my last two posts, you’ll remember exactly where I am about to start off…to when my boyfriend (finally!) came home from Japan. If not, you may want to go back and read parts I and II. They’re ultimately about the power of transparency in relationships- all relationships, not just poly ones.
As you might expect, we had a tremendous reunion when he returned home. Reunion S.E.X. is kinda like “makeup sex”- gooood. In fact, it was so good I was joking about sending him away again. 
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Tuesday, March 26th, 2013
Back to my series on transparency via poly dating…when I left off, I had just “survived” the trials of my boyfriend going on his first date.
He was about to embark on a trip to Japan for his work, which would keep him away for almost five weeks. We had discussed beforehand the fact that he has always been attracted to Asian women, and he had a huge fantasy about having sex with a Japanese woman while there. So we agreed that if he had the opportunity to make his dream come true, he would go for it. I felt totally fine about that. In fact, I was really hoping it would work out for him. This may seem kind of odd, since I had just had so much anxiety about one little date in the U.S. But, really, I want him to be happy and have what he wants, and it felt so much safer with his potential lover living on another continent. (more…)
Friday, March 22nd, 2013
Many of you already know that I am in a new, polyamorous relationship with an amazing man! And, even for those of you who are not poly and have no intention of ever being poly, my blogs about my relationship(s) are applicable to monogamous relationships as well. The same issues- of jealousy, transparency, time challenges, communication, and S.E.X. come up.
This is going to be the start of a “mini-series” of blogs about our recent experiences with starting to date others for the first time since getting into relationship about five months ago. (more…)