The author of a book named “Full Catastrophe Living”, John Kabat-Zinn, refers to “the poignant enormity of our life experience” and suggests mindfulness (being present in each moment) as a means to coping with it. After a recent experience in my primary relationship, I decided that polyamory is “full catastrophe” dating. It’s facing whatever is there in each moment. In polyamory, there is no hiding.
Allow me to explain: the day finally came. My primary partner had sex, actual intercourse, with someone else. And it brought up more for me than I had anticipated. (more…)